Moonbeam
07-27-2011, 07:42 PM
An important goal in recovery is to reduce the troublesome
and extreme anger some of us struggle with. When codependents
are setback by negative emotions, it is usually for lack of
skills to cope and resolve our anger.
Once we move beyond denial and review our negative reactions,
we usually find that an imbalance exists. We find that we
have overreacted to an event.
When we are new to recovery, we are still learning to recognize
when our anger is out of control. Denial still has a firm
stronghold on us. Unfortunately, because of denial, we may fail
to understand the impact and damage anger has on our lives.
Therefore, awareness is the first goal in anger management.
We must then be willing to address more attention to our
overpowering anger through planning. By recounting the
incidences that are most likely to cause us to erupt in anger,
we can work on altering the outcome. Consistently altering our
reaction in thought and then action, tends to re-educate the brain,
forming a new habit.
Taking time to practice our new role in circumstances that cause
extreme anger is one of many tools we can use as part of our recovery.
and extreme anger some of us struggle with. When codependents
are setback by negative emotions, it is usually for lack of
skills to cope and resolve our anger.
Once we move beyond denial and review our negative reactions,
we usually find that an imbalance exists. We find that we
have overreacted to an event.
When we are new to recovery, we are still learning to recognize
when our anger is out of control. Denial still has a firm
stronghold on us. Unfortunately, because of denial, we may fail
to understand the impact and damage anger has on our lives.
Therefore, awareness is the first goal in anger management.
We must then be willing to address more attention to our
overpowering anger through planning. By recounting the
incidences that are most likely to cause us to erupt in anger,
we can work on altering the outcome. Consistently altering our
reaction in thought and then action, tends to re-educate the brain,
forming a new habit.
Taking time to practice our new role in circumstances that cause
extreme anger is one of many tools we can use as part of our recovery.