Relationships and boys...

[ChemHBr]

Good afternoon, I am in need of some girl talk about relationships and boys. Yesterday I started working on Step 1 and got to the question about intimacy and ever since my brain has been in a fog. I dont have the best relationships in the past and even more so now in the present. I am hoping to find someone who can help me break through the wall I have built up about relationships. I refuse to talk about them and run from questions about them, usually seeking food to fix what ever damage the questioin has done. I am sick of this cycle and could use some guidance from anyone who has been in a smiliar situation and was able to stay abstinent while breaking the bariars. Thank you for your help.

[lbressem]

Hi - Relationships are a challenge to every human on the planet, I think. Trying to understand and deal with them in the context of the 12 step process can be overwhelming. Some of the things that came up as I was working the steps led me to think that my marriage of 27 years was probably going to go down in flames. It scared me to death, and so I began to write in a journal about what I was thinking and feeling. I then gave my worries to my HP...in writing...in the journal. I kept this up for a week or so, and found that I had worked my way through the issues that I had thought so overwhelming.

I don't have any advice but to keep putting one foot in front of the other, and trust your Higher Power to help you through the sticky patches.


Linda

[chicko3x]

What always helped me was remembering that there are always 2 halves to a relationship. As long as you express your half, the other stuff is not in your control and you shouldn't worry about it. If your half is taken care of, you should feel good. Will be praying for our clarity in relationships! :)