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lmterrell
02-09-2012, 03:19 AM
just need to talk/share...having such a hard time right now. i started faa january 1st and became abstinent instantly, but 18 days into it my sister died after a long illness and i relapsed. i gave myself time to grieve and set a day to go back on program and i did, but it only lasted for that 1 day. i'm trying to hold on, i keep doing phone meetings(90 in 90dys), try to make myself known at them but a lot of the time i stay muted and just listen. right now, i cna't seem to get full. i eat s/f/w, especially bread and i can't get satisfied. i takes everything in me daily not to go to the store and buy chocolate, bake a cchocolate cake or chocolate ice cream. chocolate was my comfort food, chocolate is what numbs me. i am terrified because when i relapse within 2 weeks i gained back 17 of the 19lbs i had lost. i am over 500lbs. this scares me, worries me, constantly on my thoughts but yet i continue to want to eat chocolate and pasta and sandwiches. i'm stuck. i am so deep into this disease that i'm just frozen into not knowing what to do. i need to attend another 12 step, that ties with this addiction. i want to be abstinent and to have 30, 60, 90 days of abstinence and to 1 day give service to help another newcomer. i want to be a speaker one day also. i am such a total mess right now and i'm tired, i am so tired of going through yet another day of carring this disease. the need to numb myself with the sugar/chocolate is so overwhelming and at the same time i see my salvation within faa, it's a battle going on. a horrible battle. i'm tired. i'm praying daily for my miracle. will the dt ever lessen or go silent? today i dealt with memories of being told i was selfish while growing up even though i was programmed to go beyond myself to do for others and cater to everyones wants and needs(?), yet i was told my needs were not important and to be happy was wrong. i never understood how i could be selfish yet i was always doing for others before myself??? why can't i just stop? my sister who died was an alcoholic who didn't stop drinking fast enough. i don't want to die from food addiction/morbid obesity or from a disease i could have got got help for. my name is la-uana and i am a food addict and i am here for all outreach from anyone who can extend wisdom/advice/encouragement or just an hello. cell #510-253-6721 california

wantingintegrity
02-09-2012, 08:34 AM
Lok in the mirror and say, "I love you and youre worth it!"


I find that when I eat s/f/w I dont WANT anything nutritious and least of all salad!

I feel your pain and want to be with you on your journey...

my verizon cell is 315-515-0123 (free nights and weekends) and home # is 585-244-7588, hang in there, youre worth it!!

lbressem
02-09-2012, 12:44 PM
HI Luanna - I am nearly a neighbor, in Pinole. We have a meeting tonight at 7PM. It would be great if you could attend. Here is the link with the address:

http://www.foodaddictsanonymous.org/meetings

This program offers us our lives back. We have to do the footwork, planning our meals and eating them, sticking to this plan of sound nutrition. The cravings leave us. Working the steps gets our minds straight and lets us deal with our emotional issues with a clear head. I am really grateful to be able to participate in this life saving program.

Please keep coming back. Linda

chicko3x
02-11-2012, 12:44 AM
Feel secure with the present moment. Remember that you are worthy of complete happiness. I will keep you in my prayers. Nurture yourself, you are loved.