Originally Posted by
mainecyn
I am scared to tell my own spouse because all his own comments during my "diets" are the same, you just need to eat smaller portions and get active. He doesn't grasp the concept of the addiction, the binge eating. I don't know if he really believes you can be addicted to food. I've listened to comments over the years about other people and I'm scared to tell him. He has never ever made comments to me. I am sorry you are going thru this, having a spouse say anything at all hurtful or disrespectful, no one should have to go thru that.
FAA promise #24***We will know freedom from the fear of change in our relationships with the community, our families, and our friends
** My recovery is my responsibility**
page 53 food addicts anonymous green bookWe have the desire, we have the plan, we have the support...WE HAVE THE DISEASE. We now have the responsibility of taking care of ourselves in a positive, healthy way. Our food is our responsibility. That is not negotiable. Our families and friends cannot know the feelings of the disease inside each of us. They cannot understand the importance of following a precise food plan each day. They cannot understand the importance of meetings and phone calls. On the other hand, why should they? The waiter or chef at a restaurant has no idea of the importance of not adding that pinch of sugar that tops off his creation. Why should he? We understand we must do the footwork necessary to protect ourselves from the addictive substances in foods. We are totally responsible for our own abstinence. It makes no difference whether the desire to eat is caused by feelings or from ingesting a trigger food. We are responsible.We must buy the right foods, read the labels and ask the questions. We must cook separately, if necessary, and protect our stash of abstinent food, just as we did our binge foods.We must be the ones to weigh and measure our food. We must be the ones to walk away from non-abstinent foods that look or smell too good to resist. We must avoid food between meals. No one can talk us into anything unless we allow it. Our abstinence has to be the most important thing in our lives. It is our responsibility to nurture ourselves in healthy ways. No one has the responsibility to make us happy so that we will not want to turn to food to fill the hole. No one can make us eat. The disease will sit on our shoulder and tell us to blame others for our thoughts and actions. In recovery, we are given the wisdom to know the difference between the things we can and cannot change. We can't stop thoughts, but we can change how we react to them. We are each responsible for our own recovery.
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